What do you want from your relationship this Christmas?

It’s the most beautiful time of the year!

Or is it?

It’s that time of year again: Christmas! It’s a time for celebrating, giving gifts, and spending time with loved ones. But it can also be a time of disappointment.

Let’s face it: no matter how much you plan ahead, or how much effort you put into making Christmas special, something is bound to go wrong. You’re going to get sick, or your flight will be delayed or cancelled, or your favourite aunt will just not show up at all. And that’s okay! It happens to everyone sometimes—you can’t control everything in life.

But when things don’t go as planned during the holidays, how do you handle it? Do you let yourself get upset by these tiny disappointments? Or do you shrug them off as part of the process?

Here are a few ways you can make your holiday experience better by focusing less on yourself and more on your loved ones:

Try to do only one thing at a time. 

It’s tempting to want to make sure everyone gets what they want, but if you spread yourself too thin trying to please everyone all at once, you might end up feeling overwhelmed or disappointed in yourself when it’s over—and we don’t want that! Instead of trying to be everything for everyone, focus on making sure you’re giving yourself time for self-care as well as time with family and friends. Remember that this is supposed to be fun!


Don’t make your expectations part of someone else’s agenda.

 If you’re feeling disappointed because your family won’t be home for Christmas Eve dinner this year, don’t let that ruin the rest of your holiday plans—you have control over how much time and effort you put into celebrating as a family this year, so don’t waste it on something that may or may not happen!


Remember that sometimes disappointment isn’t always bad. Sometimes being disappointed means that what happened wasn’t exactly what you’d hoped for or imagined would happen at that moment—but it doesn’t mean it won’t be better next time!

Be honest with yourself about what you want from your relationship. 

Don’t make excuses or hide behind other people’s expectations—just be honest with yourself. Sometimes when we don’t get what we want, it’s because we didn’t really know what we wanted at all! This year make sure you have clear goals for your relationships so nothing gets caught in the middle of being expected of one person but not another.


Know your limits.

To avoid disappointment, it’s important to know what your limits are when it comes to family gatherings or specific traditions. You don’t have to go along with everything that’s expected of you just because other people expect it. You have rights, boundaries and a right to say no!

Don’t get too attached.

If someone expects something from you this Christmas and they’re really excited about it, try not to get too attached to the idea of giving them what they want—just in case, it doesn’t happen! Because then if things change and things don’t go the way they planned, they won’t be.


Be flexible about what happens. 

There are bound to be some disappointments during the holidays—things don’t always go according to plan! Don’t let it ruin your day; instead, try to look at it as an opportunity for growth and learning. Remember: even if something goes wrong, it can still turn out okay in the end!

Don’t let disappointments stop you from being grateful for what’s good about your relationship

Even if your family doesn’t say it as often as you’d like or remember your best moments as well as your worst ones, they’re still a part of who you are today. And even if there are things about them that drive you crazy or disappoint you, there are also things about them that make them an important part of your life—so don’t let one bad thing overshadow the good stuff! Be thankful for what you have!

The key to enjoying the holiday festivities is to maintain an open mind, keep an eye on the big picture and let go of any expectations that you may have. That way you can reduce the chances of feeling disappointment or resentment when things don’t match up to what you had in mind. And while you’re at it, why not share your own Christmas dilemmas in our comment section? Maybe one of us has come across a solution that you can try out this year.

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