I was someone who developed body image concerns at a very young age, just like some of us reading this. And as a result in my adult life and as I grew, I found myself making certain adjustments to my life. For instance: I started wearing certain clothes to cover a part of my body; didn’t want to talk or laugh in public because I had a broken-teeth; shied away from talking too much because I stammered etc. Well, now that all that is behind me, I have learnt to love me unconditionally and my life has improved financially, business wise, the relationship with my spouse/kids and so much more.
Looking back now, I realized what I will be sharing with everyone today, some of the root causes of body image concerns, which is not only a mum thing but for everyone in general.
Body Comments from People
Comments come in various forms, for instance: jokes made by friends (e.g. toothpick legs, ant hair, amoeba etc), family members, colleagues etc., and the consequential effect of this is that, a seed is planted 90% percent of the time.
Commonly, we laugh it off, but unconsciously we are pondering on the reality the comments, which resultantly bears fruits. This is how they develop and grow into those body insecurities we now have. To prevent this, mostly the best line of action is cautioning negative comments immediately they are passed. Our kids should not be left out as well.
HAVING negative Conversations
Secondly, what conversations are you constantly having about your body to other people. For instance conversations about how much weight you have added or how big any part of your body is e.g. thighs, arms, tummy etc. Unconsciously, we affirm these things and worry so much about it, hence the results we keep getting.
Rather, have conversations about your plans to achieve body goals especially as mums and how unconditionally you love you. Psychologically you produce the results you really want to see.
NEGATIVE Self Conversation
Lastly, what discussions are you constantly having with yourself. For example, my arms are too big, I am ugly sha, my tummy is too big, I will definitely have stretch marks, If I had a curvy body I will be happy and so on.
What you are doing by these is calling what you don’t want into existence. Rather try saying my tummy you will get smaller, it is just a matter of time and so on. Overtime you will unconsciously find yourself committed to working on you as a mum and also loving you unconditionally.
“I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”
Psalms 139:14 AMP
I hope you found this enlightening. What area do you feel caused yours? Kindly share your thoughts with us below👇🏻
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