Situationships are the new “relationship” in today’s dating world. It’s that nice, annoying gray area between a casual hookup and a relationship. A situationship is more than sex but less serious than a commitment. While it can work for some people, it can also get pretty confusing pretty fast—especially when feelings are involved.
The world is filled with people who think they’re in relationships when they’re just seeing each other casually. But here’s the thing: if you’re not sure what kind of relationship you have with your partner, then you might be in a situationship.
A situationship is when two people are together but don’t consider themselves to be dating or committed to one another. They may even go on dates and spend time together regularly, but neither person has made any serious commitments to the other.
So how can you tell if you’re really in a relationship or just having fun? Here are six signs that could mean you’re in a situationship:
They don’t want to commit anytime soon.
This is one of the most common signs that someone isn’t interested in being in a relationship with you long-term. They just want to hang out and get to know each other without any strings attached. It’s natural for people who have just met each other not to want to jump into anything too fast. However, if they’ve been seeing each other for several months and still aren’t talking about commitment, then it’s probably time for them to move on!
You’re not exclusive.
If you’re in a situationship, it means you’re only dating each other to pass the time or to get over someone else. You might be friends with benefits, or you might just be an ‘on-again off-again’ thing. Either way, it’s not serious. And if it’s not serious, that means you can’t expect your partner to be there for you when things go wrong—because they won’t be.
You’re never quite sure where you stand.
When you’re in a relationship, you know what to expect from your partner. You know the relationship is real and long-lasting because there are no question marks about it. But when you’re in a situationship, things just don’t feel right. You’re not sure if your partner will be around next week or next month—or even tomorrow. You might have been together for years or months, but it feels like you’ve only known each other for days.
They don’t seem to care about your feelings or well-being.
When you’re in a real relationship, your partner cares about how you feel. They also make sure that they do things that make you happy and keep you well-cared for. But if someone is just using you as an option when they can’t find anyone else, then they definitely won’t care about your feelings or well-being—because they don’t see any reason to! They only want to use whatever resources they have available at the time—including people—and then throw them away when they’re done with them.
It’s all about sex.
If there isn’t much more to your relationship than having sex and hanging out, then there really isn’t much more to it at all. If this is all you’re doing with each other, then you’re not really in a relationship; you’re just two people who like each other well enough to do things together sometimes and have sex on occasion.
You don’t talk about your future together.
You might have talked about getting married or moving in together once or twice, but neither of you has brought it up in recent weeks or months. When people are truly committed to one another, they want to know what their lives will look like together down the road—and they want their partners to know too! If there’s no mention of these kinds of things happening anytime soon (or ever), then there’s probably something wrong somewhere.
Ultimately, you are the best judge of your significant other. If anyone makes you feel bad about yourself or does not make efforts to create a healthy, loving relationship with you and lets you down when things get tough, it is time to end it. Do not be afraid to cut the cord as long as you do so in a healthy manner.
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