Relationship Anxiety is a real thing—and it’s not just for kids.
Relationship anxiety can happen when you’re dealing with a new partner, or when you’re trying to repair an old one. It can even happen if you’re single but feeling like there’s something wrong with your life because you’re not in a relationship.
But there are ways to overcome relationship anxiety, and you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some tips for getting yourself out of the hole of relationship anxiety:
Start by identifying what triggers the anxiety.
Is it a particular situation? A specific thing that your partner does? Or is it just the idea of being in a relationship in general? Knowing what specifically makes you anxious will help you figure out how to get past that trigger.
Remind yourself why you want to be with this person.
Think about all of their good qualities, their sense of humor, their kindness, their ability to make you laugh when things are tough, and focus on those instead of whatever could potentially go wrong in your relationship.
Make sure your partner is right for you.
Don’t settle for anyone who isn’t right for you, not even if they’re cute or funny or rich or whatever else you might think is important in a partner. Every person has their own unique set of challenges that come with being in a relationship with them, and if what they bring to the table doesn’t feel like it’s worth dealing with those challenges, then don’t do it! Trust us when we say there are plenty of other fish in the sea that might not have any issues at all.
Be honest about what you want and need from your partner.
Make sure they’re willing to give it to you before entering into any type of commitment or long-term relationship. If they aren’t willing to give it to you (or at least try), then move on.
Don’t worry about what other people are thinking
When you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, one of the major things to do is stop trying to figure out what other people think of your relationship status or your decision to be single or whatever. You can’t control what other people think, so worrying about it won’t help you at all, and it’ll just make you more anxious.
Focus on yourself.
Relationships work best when both parties are comfortable with themselves and their own needs and wants, so if you’re feeling anxious about relationships right now, take some time off from dating (if that’s something that makes sense for your situation) and focus on taking care of yourself instead of trying to meet someone new. That way, when it comes time for a new relationship, you’ll be ready for one because YOU will be happy.
Don’t get caught up in thinking about the future.
It’s also important not to get caught up in the future when dealing with relationship anxiety—don’t think about what might happen or how things could go wrong (or right!). Instead, focus on being present in each moment as it comes along without worrying about what has happened in the past or what will happen in the future. If you keep yourself occupied with thoughts about one thing after another instead of focusing on what’s happening right now then there’s no way that you’ll be able to enjoy life as much as possible!
Get some exercise.
Exercising releases endorphins, which are chemicals in your brain that make you feel good about yourself and the world around you (and also help reduce stress). Plus, working out can give you something to do with your hands that isn’t texting or scrolling through Instagram.
Do some deep breathing exercises.
When we feel anxious or stressed out, we tend to breathe shallowly in our chest rather than deeply in our bellies. This makes us feel more tense and frustrated than we actually are because it reduces oxygen flow throughout our bodies. So take deep breaths when you feel anxious—it will help clear away those negative feelings
Find your inner peace.
You deserve it! It’s okay to be scared of rejection, or even more than that—being alone forever. But remember that you have so much to offer the world, and what is more important than doing that? We believe in you. We believe in your ability to find love and happiness with another person (or by yourself). Don’t let fear stop you from living out your dreams—you’re worth it!
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