Jealousy is one of the most common reasons for a relationship to end. But what if you’re not jealous? Or is your partner jealous? How do you deal with jealousy in your relationship?
Jealousy is a normal feeling, but it can also be destructive. If you’re feeling jealous, try to identify the root cause of your jealousy. Is it because you’re afraid of losing your partner? Or perhaps you’re worried that they’ll find someone better than you? Maybe it’s just that one of your friends is getting married and having a baby, and you’re worried that now they might not want to spend as much time with their partner anymore.
When your jealousy stems from a fear of losing someone, try asking yourself: would I rather have them or not have them at all? If the answer is “not at all,” then maybe it’s time to take a step back and figure out what’s really going on here!
How do you deal with jealousy in your relationship? Here are some tips:
Accept that jealousy is natural.
Jealousy is a natural emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their life—it’s not something to be ashamed of! And it has a lot of benefits: it motivates us to take action and protect those closest to us, which makes our relationships stronger.
Don’t let jealousy control your behavior or thoughts.
If someone does something (like talk to another person) that makes you feel jealous, don’t lash out at them or accuse them of cheating—you’ll only end up hurting both of you in the long run! Instead, try talking about how things make YOU feel instead of accusing them of wrongdoing; then maybe figure out together how best to handle these situations going forward.
Identify what’s causing the jealousy.
If your partner is jealous of other people, try to pinpoint the reason they feel threatened by those people. Is it because they’re too old? Too young? Too smart? Not smart enough? Or maybe they just don’t like them? You’ll never be able to fix a problem if you don’t know what it is!
Talk about it with your partner and try to come up with solutions together.
If you’ve identified what’s causing their jealousy, maybe there’s something you can do to help them feel more secure in the relationship (for example, setting up a regular date night with just the two of you). Or maybe there’s something about yourself that makes you feel insecure around other people—in that case, bring those feelings into the open so that your partner knows how much they mean to you!
Know what triggers your jealousy and try to avoid those situations or people if possible.
For example, if you tend to get jealous when your partner spends time with their ex, then maybe spend less time together around your ex or avoid them altogether!
Be careful about what you say when you’re feeling jealous.
You don’t want to say something hurtful or make someone feel bad about themselves just because they trigger your emotions.
Don’t make assumptions about what’s going on with your partner—just ask them!
If you think they’re flirting with someone else at a party, just ask them point-blank if they are really interested in someone else. You might be surprised by their answer.
Try not to compare yourself to the other person.
This helps keep the focus on your relationship instead of theirs! If you have strong feelings about them being around certain people or doing certain things together, talk about those feelings so that there are no surprises later on down the line when something comes up unexpectedly (like an unexpected date!).
It can be upsetting to think about. But the more we hide from it, the harder it is to deal with. Instead, we should be willing to talk about it, and try to understand where jealousy comes from in ourselves and our partners. If you want to make the relationship last then this is a subject that both you and your partner should try to understand better.
Be willing to ask for help and support from friends or family members if you feel like you need it. Remember, they love you and want you to be happy!
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