Conflicts resolution in Marriage

by Ngozi AbiolaJuly 8, 2023July 8, 202311

Marriage is a beautiful union that brings together two individuals with their unique personalities, experiences, and perspectives.

While the journey of love and togetherness is often rewarding, it is not without its fair share of challenges.

Conflicts are an inevitable part of any relationship, and marriage is no exception. We asked our community how they resolve conflicts in their marriage and they had a whole lot to share.

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Comments (11)

Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

My husband can’t keep malice at all but he can look for trouble for Africa, he will womanize and beg you with tears and say it’s the hand of the devil. I’m tired. I wish he will keep the malice and face his womanizing.
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

Good afternoon, Please keep me anonymous. my own experience of malice is not with my husband but two of my siblings. They will just stop talking to me a year, 2 years etc block me everywhere and will come back like nothing happened. They will never tell me what I did wrong and if family members ask them they never give an answer, their response is either they don’t want to talk about it or that I know what I did.
Recently I found out from an uncle that they think i have money but don’t want to help them (both of them are doing well even better than me). When they’ve come I have helped them even if I go an borrow. I can’t post anything on my status that shows I’m happy or having fun, wahala. I’m the eldest and got married late in my 30s, you would think they’ll be happy for me, they pretended. After my wedding they blocked me, got pregnant had babies no congratulations. I’m close 50, spent the last 15 years with this ‘malice’ enough is enough. I’m done with them. Bye bye to radarada
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

dad isn’t sick but he stopped eating my mum’s food a long time . Dad sleeps in the sitting room, Mum sleep in their bedroom. The bone of contention is that Mum was catering for the family and picked up his business when he was at the verge of loosing the shop to someone else. My Mum started hustling, continues in the shop but my Dad started becoming jealous and people started giving him all sort of stupid advise. That she’s controlling and all and that she wants to override him as the head. Mum Cartered for our school fees up till our last born who is now about to enter the university. She greets him but he never answers her greetings. I always feel ashamed though i’m not based in same location as them coz i’m married but it affects me so much.He lives as though he’s a pauper and people are talking not knowing that he just doesn’t want to dress well or eat well… He’s always delaying our progress as
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

Pls hid my id,mine is a gd man,he cares for the kids and me but will withdraw any help once there’s malice,I am out spoken so it doesn’t sit well with him,we just reconciled from a two months off and on malice in-between we are having sex even when I moved to my kids room and our kids to our room,he comes,just that its not sensual so i know it just to satisfy our body because we are kind of addicted to our bodies usually it ends our malice which the most we have done is two weeks bt cont malice afterwards when I call him out on he he said he will stop ,when I ask to talk if he watching television for example he will ask me to talk while watching for example and while am talking he will shout “goal” or “pass the ball”,he sometimes will be lying down while we are talking its crazy,which makes me feel he doesn’t love me and married me out of convince,said he was going to withdraw every help he giving to my family mind you my family is not poor,he finds it difficult to say sorry It draining me ,we didn’t really date,so that’s why I didn’t know he’s like this,
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

My fiancé is very notorious with silent treatments/malice, even after I catch him cheating continuously.
He puts in minimal efforts, still waiting for my birthday gift (this is the third week after), we were not together on his I ensure he got his gifts that day.
What has been annoying me more is that I somehow end up begging him after each episode and he kinda insinuates I should be grateful for his baby steps (like I should give him an award for cheating with less people than he used too)
Says he hates putting relationships on social media but I have come to the conclusion that it will cramp his style that it why, has no reason to be about being private.
One thing he however does well is doing the silent treatment/malice whenever I confront him about these things or we have any other issue.
I have brought it up openly now and I know I am spent.
Can’t imagine spending the rest of my life like this. I had rather be single than live like this.
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

This people that their husband doesn’t keep malice are lucky ,have been married for 2yrs and I can say my husband can keep malice for Africa ,either I’m at fault or not I will apologise..little misunderstanding he took it up since then going to 3months he send money to me and he has this money ,he stopped sleeping on the same bed with me ,he won’t even ask me for secs no romantic moments with him ..we will both be pressing phone .I’m getting weak and tired from all this drama 🥺

don’t know what to do again ,have apologised countless times even sent my prophet to him but nothing changed
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

my parents,34 years and they have never been peace,my mum is a narcissist and wicked while dad is a troublemaker and talkative,put both together and you wonder how the home was,my brothers are damage goods,me i was lucky enough to marry a person that re taught me all i know. What we did about both of them i to convince dad to relocate to the village,we got him a boy we do pay to help him around the house while mum is in town,for 3months now they have been peace….i wonder why did not do this since
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

Lol this is my current situation, he started malice and moved out since April. We dated for 8 years got marriage was just 7 months when he moved out. I reached out once he didn’t respond, so me self moved to my parents house, I’m not the one marrying myself.P.s his sister and her 2 kid are the one’s staying our house now.
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

I am not yet married to him. Myself and my ex had an argument a while back and he didn’t talk to me for 2days. I had to behave like the matured person and I apologized, he didn’t acknowledge my apology message, I called him 15times for 3days he didn’t pickup my call neither did he return any. Then the malice began for 6months, had to breakup. I can’t deal with such a man as my husband. God forbid
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

Wow!this is my story,mine doesn’t keep Malice during relationship we don’t sleep over it but omo this guy will wake up in marriage and malice Don start,what happened I won’t know but I keep begging sometimes it takes a month or two.Only for him to say he just wants to act the man in the marriage. Well it’s 9months of Malice now and even though I never prayed or wished for a broken home I secretly don’t want him again.
Anonymous
ReplyJuly 8, 2023

Good morning ms asoebi thank you for putting this up probably would make some of us feel better our first to third year of marriage max is 3days we still communicate though in between the threes days hubby is quick to apologize like wise me and he has this law of after every issue we end the with good sex but but from our third year of marriage this man changed suddenly he started with a month we settled in between after two week he started another one that about two months we crossed over to this year settled in January he ended up keeping another Malice with me cause he said i know something about him and I refuse to say it yes i caught him cheating and am not ready to talk about it ,yeah cause i have my plans cause i would show him shege bcos of that he do tell me his done with the marriage all the time i want us to talk about it ,

my normal me would end up saying all the things he did well the last time he said it i told him am also done and we should proceed for divorce he begged And start the next day it being four months now ,no communication,no sex,we talk sometimes that wen he want to ask questions i talk to him when i have questions too he thinks scaring me with malice and divorce would make me forgive him cause he cheated several times in between family and friends already intervene ask him why he’s not talking to me he has nothing to say even his family insulted him that he has no point am the only one that know his reason am ready to play along cause am ready to show him my own shege when he stop am tired of him gaslighting

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