Healthy Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
In a perfect world, we’d all be able to communicate with each other perfectly. But when you’re in a relationship with someone, there are bound to be times when you feel like your communication isn’t as good as it could be.
Maybe you’re upset about something and your partner just doesn’t get it. Or maybe your partner is upset about something and you don’t know what to say. Either way, when communication goes wrong in a relationship, it can lead to some really bad feelings and hurt feelings that can take a long time to heal.
So how do you make sure that doesn’t happen? By practicing healthy communication! Here are some tips for healthy communication:
Make sure that your partner knows that they can talk openly and honestly with you—and vice versa!
If they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings, they’ll be more likely to tell you how they feel when something goes wrong instead of bottling it up until it blows up into an argument later on down the road… or worse!
When talking through problems together, don’t try so hard to fix everything right away; sometimes it’s best just to listen until things get sorted out on their own before trying anything else!
Don’t be afraid of conflict.
It’s okay if you’re mad or upset, just be sure not to let those feelings fester and come out in an angry outburst or passive-aggressive behavior. Instead, try talking about it as calmly as possible and making sure both people are heard before moving on from whatever disagreement sparked the conversation in the first place.
Take responsibility for your part when things go wrong between you two.
If one person is being more difficult than usual and causing strife between them, it might be because they’re feeling insecure about something going on in their life outside of this relationship that they feel safe bringing up here and now (but don’t). So maybe try asking questions instead of just accusing someone else outright?
Be mindful of your tone.
This is especially important if you’re having a heated discussion or if one of you is feeling upset. Make sure your voice doesn’t get too loud and don’t use an accusatory tone, even if the other person does! It’s not about who started it or who has done worse things; it’s about finding common ground and communicating with each other.
Don’t make assumptions about what the other person thinks or feels.
Ask them directly! You might be surprised how differently things can turn out from what you expected (in a good way).
Let your partner know how they’ve made you feel.
If something has upset or hurt you, it’s okay to let them know how it made you feel. Just make sure that your tone isn’t accusatory or blaming, as this can cause defensiveness and make it harder for them to hear what you’re saying.
Acknowledge your partner’s point of view.
Remember that no matter how right or wrong you think someone is, they still have a valid point of view, and maybe even reasons why they believe what they believe. Try not to invalidate those reasons by making assumptions or jumping to conclusions before hearing them out first (even if those assumptions and conclusions turn out to be true).
Focus on solutions instead of symptoms.
When people are having a hard time communicating with each other, it often helps to put aside any judgment about who did what and when.
Finally, give them space when they need it.
This one is important! If your partner needs time alone (or with their friends), don’t try to guilt them into spending time with you instead. It might make sense at first glance, after all, they’re not spending time with YOU, but what they’re doing is taking care of themselves to be able to better take care of YOU later on down the road.
In the end, the key to a good relationship is open communication. Talking things through can feel scary, but it’s often necessary for fixing problems and bridging the gap. As I mentioned earlier, confrontation should be avoided when possible. But if you can’t get through to your partner, you’ll need to bring up some concerns in a constructive manner. And I hope that reading this article will help you with that.
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