One of the most fun parts of planning a wedding is getting to know all your wedding vendors working on your big day. From your photographer and videographer to your caterer, florist, and DJ, you’ll have lots of chances to get to know these people throughout planning your wedding.
But sometimes it’s easy to forget that these people aren’t just there to make sure your big day goes off without a hitch – they’re also there for YOU! They want you to have a great time on your wedding day too!
You’re probably not doing anything wrong on purpose. But maybe you’re making mistakes that are hurting your relationship with your wedding vendors in a way that’s unintentional. We’ve all seen situations where the bride-to-be gets so stressed out by all the planning that she ends up driving her friends and family nuts. We don’t want that to happen to you!
So here are our 6 ways you’re overstepping boundaries with your vendors:
You don’t pay on time.
Paying on time is key because it shows respect for the vendor and their business. If you’re late or just forget to pay, they’ll feel taken advantage of and will probably be less likely to go above and beyond for you in the future.
You’re asking for a discount on everything because “it’s your special day.”
This is a tricky one because we get it: You want your day to be perfect, and maybe you feel like if you don’t get this amazing deal on flowers or photography or whatever else, then something won’t go right on your big day. But here’s the thing: It’s not about getting a discount—it’s about paying what something is worth. And no matter how much money or time you spend on something, it won’t change how much value that thing has in general.
You don’t communicate clearly.
If something goes wrong and there’s no clear way to tell someone how you feel about it (or what went wrong), then there’s nothing they can do to fix it! So take some time to communicate clearly with vendors so they’re prepared for any issues that might come up during planning or on the day of your event.
You ask for too many changes or revisions.
If your venue doesn’t have enough space for cocktail hour, don’t expect them to magically create more space at 2 a.m. on a Saturday! Your photographer isn’t an artist who can turn black-and-white photos into colour ones at no cost—he/she needs time to edit them, too! Sure, you want to make sure everything is perfect, but changing your mind all the time can be a huge pain for vendors. If you don’t know what you want until it’s too late in the game, chances are it won’t turn out as well as it could have if you’d been more decisive from the start.
You micromanage them.
Vendors are professionals, but they also have lives outside of weddings—and they need room to breathe so they can do their job well without being micromanaged by their clients. They’re not mind readers, either—if there’s something that isn’t working out as planned or something they need clarification on, they’ll let you know if they feel comfortable doing so (and if not, then maybe ask them).
You expect all your vendors to work together like magic.
When hiring multiple vendors for one event, it can be tempting to assume that they’ll all work together seamlessly… but unfortunately, this isn’t always the case! Sometimes there’s a disconnect between different teams of people working on different parts of your big day and those disconnects can sometimes lead to problems down the road.
While it’s fine to have high expectations for your vendors, it’s also important to remember that they’re people too. A little bit of empathy can go a long way toward making sure you get what you want without hurting anyone’s feelings along the way. Maintaining a good relationship with your vendors is critical to the smooth operation of your wedding, so make sure you know exactly what’s off limits and how to best communicate your needs and wishes. And remember: Don’t be that person!
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